Teen Mom 2‘s Kailyn Lowry has had enough of people shaming her for not bouncing right back after giving birth to baby number four. It’s a weird phenomenon where people feel like a mom should look like she didn’t just have a baby after she actually grew a human in her body. At the same time, if a mom wants to take the time to focus on her health and recovery, she’s shamed for not prioritizing her new baby. Lowry has had enough, and she’s letting people know.
Kailyn Is a Loving Mother of Four
Although Lowry has been in the news lately for drama with ex Chris Lopez after he chopped their son Lux’s gorgeous locks short, one headline being missed lately is just what an amazing mom she is to her four sons. Here’s a timeline of her journey through motherhood:
- In 2010, 16-year-old Lowry gives birth to son Isaac Rivera with high school sweetheart, Jo Rivera. Despite the struggle of being a brand new mom at only 16, Lowry showed herself to be loving, responsible, and capable.
- 2013: Lowry welcomes son Lincoln with then-husband Javi Marroquin. Isaac was tickled to be a big brother and again, Lowry adjusted beautifully to her new motherhood journey.
- IN 2017, Lowry welcomed son Lux with Chris Lopez after a painful divorce from Marroquin. Although Lowry was a loving and present mother, Lopez from the very beginning failed to consistently support their son.
- After an on-again-off-again romance with Lopez and bouncing between harmonious co-parenting and contentious disagreements over custody, Lowry welcomed her fourth son, Creed, with Lopez just this summer. Through the drama, Lowry has been consistently there for her sons and is raising them to be healthy and happy.
After Baby Number Four, People Criticized Her Bounce-Back
Almost every woman who has ever given birth to a child, much less four, can relate to this. As soon as the baby leaves your body, people expect you to look like you did pre-human-growing. While some people may be capable of this Herculean feat, not everyone can or even wants to focus on, “bouncing back.” And often times, when a mom shares her journey to recovery and, “bouncing back,” she’s then hit with criticism that she’s focusing on herself and not her baby. It’s a lose-lose situation for new moms, because society doesn’t recognize the challenges of motherhood or the fact that every body needs a different timeline to heal.
Now that Lowry is several months post-partum with her fourth son, she has taken to social media to talk about her experience being mom-shamed.
On Instagram, Lowry wrote, “moms don’t get enough credit, women in general don’t get enough credit. we are expected to do all the things. carry our babies for 9-10 months, breastfeed, (for some of us) raise other kids, be up all hours of the night, hit the ground running with work & then are mom shamed when we want/need time to ourselves (when we deserve it!)
motherhood isn’t supposed to be a competition – and neither are our bodies.
this shoot was a challenge for me. i’ve birthed 4 humans & people expect my body to snap back immediately. when it doesn’t – i get body shamed, when I go to the gym it’s selfish. when I love my body, it’s unhealthy. there is no ‘winning’ for me in the court of public opinion.
all of this being said, i decided to do sh– at my own pace. i decided i would start here – a photoshoot to be proud of my body and really love what it has been capable of doing 4x – but also as a starting point in my fitness & health journey. hopefully i will be able to look back on these photos & see significant changes & progress – but still have love for myself & all that my body has gone through.
cheers to loving ourselves & our bodies and to supporting & uplifting other women & moms.”
“We Can’t be Everything”
CELEB reached out exclusively to Lowry to talk about her experience with, as she says, fighting in the, “court of public opinion.”
When asked about her thoughts on what it’s like to try to recover as a new mom and fend off society’s expectations, Lowry responded, “Our society is not set up to empower moms to care for themselves. We are shamed the minute we leave our children, and also shamed if we hold onto, ‘baby weight.'”
Lowry continued, “The expectations placed on moms, and women in general are unrealistic. We can’t be everything and do everything for everyone else until we do the same for ourselves.”
Lowry Has Big Plans Ahead
While it may be challenging to recover from a new baby and try to ignore the lose-lose pressure from society, Lowry somehow thrives in the midst of such chaos. Now that she’s focusing on her own body’s recovery while juggling the crazy life of a mom of four, Lowry has set her sights on a new goal: joining the Air Force Reserves. In order to do this, Lowry needs to drop 50lbs. If anyone can do this while raising four happy boys, it’s Lowry.