It looks like Willow Smith is not holding back. The singer just revealed that she’s polyamorous and opened up about having multiple relationships.
What Did Willow Smith Say About It?
“With polyamory, I feel like the main foundation is the freedom to be able to create a relationship style that works for you and not just stepping into monogamy because that’s what everyone around you says is the right thing to do,” she explained during a recent appearance on The Red Talk Table with her mom, Jada Pinkett Smith, and her grandmother, Adrienne Banfield-Norris. “So I was like, how can I structure the way that I approach relationships with that in mind? Also, doing research into polyamory, the main reasons why monogamous relationships — or why marriage — why divorces happen is infidelity.”
And when her grandma suggested that polyamorous relationships were all about sex, Willow disagreed and admitted that she was the person in her friend group who was least interested in sex.
“I mean, I’ll give you an example. Let’s say you haven’t always been the kind of person that wanted to have sex all the time. But your partner is. Are you gonna be the person to say, you know, ‘Just because I don’t have these needs, you can’t have them either?’” she continued. “And so that’s kind of one of the reasons why I actually was interested in poly because I was introduced to it through kind of a nonsexual lens. In my friend group, I’m the only polyamorous person, and I have the least sex out of all of my friends.”
The 20-year-old star also explained her stance on marriage, and she said she wasn’t really a fan of the idea. She added, “The history of marriage really irks me. Just the history of marriage as a whole and what it has represented over the years, for women in particular. I feel like the only way that I would get married is — let’s say me and my partner or partners wants to help people, and we need to put our finances together in order to make that vision happen. That’s the only way I could see myself getting married.”
Have Any Other Stars Been In Polyamorous Relationships?
“I don’t think anybody will really understand the bonds that I share with Mod or Tana,” she told Gay Times in January 2019. “Yeah, we joke around about poly, but we aren’t in the sense that we don’t put a word, a box or label on too many things. It is what it is.”
The former Nickelodeon actress also told Cosmopolitan in November 2019, “Obviously, dating two people at once is a little difficult. If you’re gonna date a guy and a girl at the same time, those people have to really f**k with each other. Or literally f**k with each other. You know what I’m saying? It’s like, it really depends on finding the right mesh of two people. It’s a really fun experience and I have been able to capture that a couple times, and I just love that idea. I love loving two people at once. I love sharing stories with three people in one room. So, I’m always trying to find ways to make it work because I think it really would make me happy.”
Mongeau later admitted in a YouTube video that it was hard for her at first, but once she got used to it, it felt totally normal to her.
“It’s funny because meeting Bella and going into it, in the beginning, I felt like there was this tension between Mod and I,” she said. “Here I am just coming in and Bella wants me here but she has a whole a** boyfriend and he wasn’t my boyfriend and I didn’t want him to be my boyfriend. He didn’t want me to be his girlfriend. It was this weird thing of him and I sharing her. But after time, it became so harmonious and absolutely normal to us.”
Shailene Woodley previously revealed that she also participated in a polyamorous relationship.
“Listen, I’m someone who has experienced both an open relationship and a deeply monogamous relationship in my life,” she revealed to The New York Times. “And I think we’re in a day and age where there should be no rules except for the ones designed by two people in a partnership — or three people, whatever floats your boat! But there has to be a level of responsibility in any relationship dynamic, and that responsibility is simply honesty and communication and trust. Apart from that, it’s really none of our business what people choose to do with their lives.”
Willow’s parents — Jada Pinkett and Will Smith — have also spoken out about having similar views as their daughter.
“I’ve always told Will, ‘You can do whatever you want as long as you can look at yourself in the mirror and be OK,’ because at the end of the day, Will is his own man,” she said in a 2013 interview. “I’m here as his partner, but he is his own man. He has to decide who he wants to be and that’s not for me to do for him. Or vice versa.”